1on1 MEETING TOOLBOX - #4 A New Blog Series with Dialogue Tips and Tricks TOOL: Changing beliefs 1
Professional Mentor, Hara will introduce 1on1 tips and tricks one by one in the "1on1 Meeting Tool Box" new series Chapter 1!
"Understanding your own thoughts and communication habits"
The fourth theme is " Know your habit of thinking" Part 1
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The tips and tricks presented in this series are necessary for the situation and relationships in the Japanese workplace.
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1on1 MEETING TOOL BOX Series #4
Where we are now
Three points needed to follow this series:
・ Challenge again even if you fail
・ Continue at your own pace
・ Looking forward to small progress
Chapter 1
Understanding your own thoughts and communication habits
Essential to the success of a 1on1 meeting
・ Forming rapport
・ Psychological safety
To lay the foundation, the foundation
" Know your habit of thinking"
#3 Quiz & FUN
While thinking about this question,
look back on your attitude, behavior, and communication habits.
Know your habit of thinking Part 1
The main mentees (people who receive mentoring) in
"Diary Mentor Program ©" are business people
who are feeling "stuck" at work.
Take your time to listen carefully, and as you build rapport, you will be able to understand the inner side of the mentee and the behavior patterns.
Each person has a "habit" of thinking, and "habit" is made from "belief". It is from here that you feel a "stuck".
"Belief" hinders smooth communication in dialogue. You can label, deny, get angry, or pessimistic about the other person's thoughts.
Not only in 1on1, but also in interviews under the Management by Objectives, coaching, mentoring, and counseling training "listening" role-playing exercises.
Do you have any idea about such "belief"?
"Belief" not only hinders smooth communication like the #2 and #3 "Communication trends / habits", but also aggravates problems and worries.
Think about changing "beliefs" to form the rapport that is essential for a 1on1 meeting, as well as for your physical and mental health and growth.
Changing beliefs 1
"Change your beliefs to improve mental and emotional functioning, and ultimately, quality of life. "
To introduce the ABC Model , which is the basis of this theme.
Cognitive Behavioral therapy or CBT, is a type of psychotherapy.
It aims to help you notice negative thoughts and feelings, and then reshape them in a more positive way. It also teaches you how these thoughts and feelings affect your behavior.
CBT is used to manage a variety of conditions, including anxiety, substance use, and relationship problems. Its goal is to improve mental and emotional functioning, and ultimately, quality of life.
This form of therapy also focuses on the present instead of your past. The idea is to help you cope with troubling situations in a healthy, effective manner.
The ABC model is a basic CBT technique. It’s a framework that assumes your beliefs about a specific event affect how you react to that event.
A therapist may use the ABC model to help you challenge irrational thoughts and cognitive distortions. This allows you to restructure these beliefs and adapt a healthier response.
The ABC Model
How the ABC Model works
The ABC model was created by Dr. Albert Ellis, a psychologist and researcher.
Its name refers to the components of the model. Here’s what each letter stands for:
A. Adversity or activating event.
B. Your beliefs about the event. It involves both obvious and underlying thoughts about situations, yourself, and others.
C. Consequences, which includes your behavioral or emotional response.
It’s assumed that B links A and C. Additionally, B is considered to be the most important component. That’s because CBT focuses on changing beliefs (B) in order to create more positive consequences (C).
When using the ABC model, it helps you explore the connection between B and C. They’ll focus on your behavioral or emotional responses and the automatic beliefs that might be behind them. It will then help you reevaluate these beliefs.
Over time, you’ll learn how to recognize other potential beliefs (B) about adverse events (A). This allows opportunity for healthier consequences (C) and helps you move forward.
Benefits of the ABC model
The ABC model benefits mental and emotional functioning.
If you have inaccurate beliefs about a situation, your response may not be effective or healthy.
However, using the ABC model can help you identify the inaccurate beliefs. This lets you consider whether they’re true, which improves how you react.
It also helps you notice automatic thoughts. In turn, you can pause and explore alternative solutions to a problem.
The bad habits of communication and thinking hinder the establishment of smooth communication and rapport in daily relationships and business execution.
The "4 communication trends" and "ABC model" are effective not only
in my own daily life, but also in the mentoring and 1on1 that I am conducting,
and they greatly help me in rapport formation, communication,
and problem solving.
In "Know your habit of thinking" Part 2, I will explain
・ How to change the beliefs (six steps)
・ How to identify the inaccurate beliefs
To handle complex situations well and to facilitate communication (conversation / dialogue), let's aim to be a "flexible manager" who has acquired "Tools" that enable mature communication.
Point
Next theme
Pillar 1
・ Understand your own thoughts and communication habits
Timeline
・ Before the start of the 1on1 meeting
Starts" Know your habit of thinking" Part 2
What do you say to the manager who thinks "Today's 1on1 is totally useless because it didn't go as planned"?
Let's think about it by the next time!
Message
with all of my thanks and friendship
#5 "know your habit of thinking " Part 2
#2 "Know your communication habits" Part 1
#3 "Know your communication habits" Part 2
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