一流の相手を褒めるポイントとは！？-What are the key points to praising a first-class person?-
皆さんこんばんわ。前回の記事では一流の会話が膨らむ褒め方とは！？についてご紹介させて頂きました。一流は褒めポイント➕ワンポイントで話を膨らませるとのことでした。気になる方はそちらの記事も併せてチェックしてみてください。そして今回はタイトルの内容ついて『雑談の一流、二流、三流』より一部抜粋してご紹介させて頂きます。
Good evening everyone. In the previous article, we introduced how to give compliments that will expand a first-class conversation! The first-class way to compliment someone is to expand the conversation with one point of praise. If you are interested, please check out that article as well. And this time, we will introduce the contents of the title with an excerpt from "First-class, second-class, and third-class small talk".
”三流は褒めるところを見つけられず、二流は褒めるところを無理やり探し、一流はbefore→afterを褒める。どうしても相手を褒めるところが見つからない、、、そんな時は過去と比較してみましょう。その瞬間、目の前に褒めるポイントが現れます。例えば入社3ヶ月経過した新卒が、いまだに契約が１件も取れていないとします。しかし3ヶ月前は一人で営業に行くことすらできなかったわけですから、それと比較すれば、一人で営業に行けること自体が伸び代です。”
"Third-rate people can't find anything to praise, second-rate people force themselves to find something to praise, and first-rate people praise before and after. When you just can't find anything to praise the other person for, try comparing them to the past. At that moment, something to praise will appear right in front of you. For example, let's say a new graduate has been with the company for three months and still hasn't secured a single contract. However, three months ago, they couldn't even go out on sales calls by themselves, so being able to go out on sales calls by yourself is itself an opportunity for growth."
”そんな新卒に声をかけるときは、「入社した手の時は一人で営業に行くこともできなかったのに、今はガンガン一人で営業に行っているんだって？すごいね」とか「入社したての時はまだ顔が学生だったけど、今は面構えが社会人になってきたね」と声をかけると良いでしょう。褒めるところがない場合でも、過去との比較、つまりbefore→afterを見ることで、褒めるポイントを発見することが可能です。”
"When talking to such new graduates, it is good to say things like, "When you first joined the company, you couldn't even go out on sales calls by yourself, but now you go out on sales calls by yourself? That's amazing," or "When you first joined the company, you still had the face of a student, but now you look like a working adult." Even if there is nothing to praise, it is possible to find something to praise by comparing with the past, that is, by looking at the before and after."
皆さんいかがだったでしょうか。これはすぐに始められそうですね。まずは人に興味を持つところから始めると良いかもしれません。そうすると意識していなくてもbefore→afterが自然と気付けるようになりそれが言葉に出てきます。きっと褒められて嫌な気になる人はいないはずです。今回の記事が何か参考になれば幸いです。それではまた。ありがとうございました。
What did you all think? It seems like something you can start doing right away. It might be a good idea to start by taking an interest in people. Then, even if you don't realize it, you will naturally notice the difference between before and after, and it will come out in your words. I'm sure no one will feel bad when they are praised. I hope this article was helpful in some way. Until next time. Thank you.
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参考文献：雑談の一流、二流、三流
著者：桐生稔
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