一流の相手との距離の縮め方とは！？-How to close the gap with a first-class partner?-
皆さんこんばんわ。前回の記事では一流の相手を褒めるポイントとは！？についてご紹介させて頂きました。褒めるところがない場合でも、過去との比較、つまりbefore→afterを見ることで、褒めるポイントを発見することが可能とのことでした。気になる方はそちらの記事も併せてチェックしてみてください。そして今回はタイトルの内容ついて『雑談の一流、二流、三流』より一部抜粋してご紹介させて頂きます。
Good evening everyone. In the previous article, we introduced the points to praise a first-rate person! Even if there is nothing to praise, it is possible to discover points to praise by comparing with the past, that is, by looking at the before and after. If you are interested, please check out that article as well. And this time, we will introduce the contents of the title with an excerpt from "First-rate, second-rate, and third-rate small talk".
”三流はいつも壁を作り、二流は共通点を探して距離を縮め、一流は相違点を探して距離を縮める。そもそも人間は固有の生き物です。それぞれ価値観も違えば、過去の経験も考え方も全く違います。つまり人間は、共通点より相違点の方が圧倒的に多いのです。よく苦手な人に反応してしまう人がいますが、それは「自分と相手が同じ価値観である」という前提が存在するからだと思います。”
”Third-rate people always build walls, second-rate people seek common ground to close the gap, and first-rate people seek differences to close the gap. Humans are inherently unique creatures. Each person has different values, past experiences, and ways of thinking that are completely different. In other words, humans have far more differences than similarities. There are people who often react to people they don't get along with, but I think this is because there is an assumption that "I and the other person have the same values."
”その価値観が異なるから「イラっ」としたり、腹が立ったりして、だんだん苦しくなるわけです。そもそも、人それぞれ性格や思考、生きてきた環境などが違うのですから、意見が合わなくて当然です。であれば、共通点を無理に探すより、相違点を探り合った方が、話のネタは増えるし、雑談は確実に盛り上がります。”
The difference in values makes you feel irritated and angry, and it gradually becomes more and more painful. In the first place, each person has a different personality, way of thinking, and environment in which they have lived, so it is natural that opinions do not match. In that case, rather than forcing yourself to find common ground, it is better to explore the differences, which will increase the topics of conversation and make the conversation more lively.
皆さんいかがだったでしょうか。相手と共通点がない時ってありますよね。そんな時は自分との相違点を探してみると良いかもしれません。わからない事は素直に質問し、教えてもらうことでより相手を理解できます。きっと自分自身の世界も広がるはずです。今回の記事が何か参考になれば幸いです。それではまた。ありがとうございました。
What did you all think? There are times when you have nothing in common with the other person. In those cases, try to find the differences between you and the other person. Digging deeper into those differences will give you an opportunity to get to know the other person better. It should also broaden your own world. I hope this article was helpful in some way. Until next time. Thank you.
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参考文献：雑談の一流、二流、三流
著者：桐生稔
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