同意して欲しいわけじゃない。そうなんだね、が欲しいだけ

164: The Human Desire to Be Heard - Greg McKeown

“We don’t want others necessarily to agree with all our feelings, but what we crave is that they at least validate them. When we are furious, we want another person to say: I can see that you’ve been driven to distraction. It must feel very chaotic for you inside right now for you. When we are sad, we want someone to say: I know you’re unusually down and I understand the reasons why. And when we can’t take it all any more, we want someone gently to say: It’s been too much for you; I recognise that so well; of course it has.”

An insight from an article called Why We Need To Feel Heard from the School of Life

「感情にすべて同意して欲しいわけじゃない。だけど、せめて『そう思っちゃうよね』って言って欲しい。激怒しているときには『発狂しそうだね、なんだかめちゃめちゃな気分でしょ』とか。悲しんでいるときは『今日はひどく落ち込んでるね。わかるよ』とか。そしてもうこれ以上無理ってときは『がんばったね。もういっぱいいっぱいだよね。誰だってそうなっちゃうよね』って、そっと言って欲しいんだ。」