Living with my wife

Having spent about half my life with my wife, I realized that she is completely different from me. It is a benefit of marriage or cohabitation to recognize that each person is unique.

To put the difference between her and me in a nutshell, she is not as attentive as I am.

This is not meant to put her down or to say I am superior to her.

I always try to find meaning in her behavior, but every time I try, I realize there's no point and I just laugh.

For example, if two outlets are vertically side by side on the wall, which would you plug into the upper or lower outlet?

I would always, without exception, use the lower one because the upper outlet must be seen without any obstruction if you need to use another plug.

But she does use the upper one in any case. She never minds such little things.

Let me give you another example.

Let's say I bought one yogurt yesterday, and we have only eaten a tiny bit of that. But I was surprised to find two more cups of yogurt in the fridge which she must have bought today.

I wondered if she didn’t like the brand I bought or if she planned to cook something with a bunch of yogurt. So, I asked her why she got two more.

Her answer was quite simple: “After all, they were on sale”.

I always worry about things like whether we can eat it before the expiration date, but she would probably just say: "Don't worry. You are not alone.”

One more example.

I never put away the hair dryer when I take a bath first because I’m sure my wife would use it shortly after she took a bath.

If she takes a bath before me, I will be the last person to use the hair dryer on that day, then I put it away in the cupboard after drying.

It is quite a simple rule for me. I want her to do the same and one day, I told her not to put away the hair dryer when she took a bath before me.

She seemed astonished to hear that. Maybe she thought, “Oh, my husband cares about such a thing! That’s a challenge for me. I’m not even sure who took a bath first.”

This is the way she is. But don't get me wrong. I am not irritated with her at all.

She doesn't care so much about what I said. She never takes it seriously and that is why she makes me feel at ease.

I always worry about whether others care too much about what I have to say, so I will surely get tired if she does the same. It's weird for me to say this myself, but I’m such a worrywart.

As long as she is not annoyed by my words, I can say whatever I think without worrying too much, and honestly, I enjoy her reactions any time.

She always reminds me that others don't care about me as much as I think they do.

I’m just happy to have married a woman whose personality is so different from my own.

I’ll always be thanking my wife. She calms my nerves any time.