Correct argument hurts people
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Well, today I'm going to talk about "right arguments hurt people".
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Have you all seen or heard about today's theme at least once?
If you've had a little contact with self-development and coaching, you'll feel like, "Oh, I've met you again," right?
For example, suppose you are talking to someone and realize that you are clearly wrong.
Let's talk for a moment, I'm going from afar today.
At such times, many people can't admit their faults, right?
Do you say that you can't be honest, do you say that you become stubborn and stick to your point of view, or you say your mistakes without admitting your faults, rather, as if they were the right thing.
You make various excuses and say and act like this, right?
Well, there was a time when I couldn't admit my fault in the same way.
But now, it's different.
I try to correct my mistakes immediately.
This is also thanks to daily training.
I don't want to brag, but if people want to change, they can somehow change even if it takes time.
So if there are any of you who are worried about the same thing as me, please try to cure that habit.
I'm sure anyone can change.
The point is to "keep going without giving up".
Well, that kind of story has nothing to do with today's story, so in fact, it doesn't matter, and today's main topic was about "right arguments hurt people", right?
Then it's about why right arguments hurt people, but it's because many people are creatures who don't want to admit their mistakes even if they think it's a mistake.
This came out lightly earlier, didn't it?
That's right.
People are creatures who don't want to admit their mistakes.
That's why I get hurt when I'm told the right argument.
Because you will be pointed out what is wrong from the front.
Well, I've already talked about this for the second time today.
That means, everyone.
It's a big deal here.
Then why don't people want to admit their mistakes in the first place?
Normally, if you make a mistake, it's natural to admit it honestly and say "That's right" or "I'm sorry", isn't it natural?
But people can't do such a simple thing.
Even though I tell people and my own children.
Well, then I'll tell you the answer.
That's because I don't want to admit that I'm inferior to others.
People are also an inherent characteristic of human beings, but they are creatures that want to be superior and inferior to others.
I want to show off that "I'm amazing" by giving it superiority and inferiority.
Of course, that allows you to immerse yourself in a sense of superiority, and you can stand above people and become a ruler.
But these reasons are just the reasons at the top, and there are actually more fundamental reasons.
That's because there's a high probability that you can leave your genes in future generations.
People, animals, and plants are all living things in this world, basically have the role of leaving their own seeds to future generations.
Otherwise, it will be extinct.
This is the genetic information of the preservation of species written in the DNA, so there is no way to tampere with it.
That's why we're talking about giving up, but it's not like that emotionally, is it?
After all, no matter how much information is written on the genes, if it is wrong, I want you to correct it properly and apologize, that's how people feel.
But there are really a lot of people who can't be honest, a lot of things.
Especially as we get older, we tend to become more and more stubborn.
I don't want to change, it's troublesome to change, and it's troublesome to think about trying to change.
The so-called stubborn old man is the most representative of it.
Styling, pride, fear of being denied, embarrassment, and many other things, various emotions are attached to this, but don't you think honesty is the best at any time?
So, I've talked about it in many ways, but when I'm confronted with the right argument, people eventually want to fight back to protect themselves.
It's unnecessary because I know very well that I'm wrong.
If you admit it, you feel like you've lost, you feel like your ideas have been denied, you're actually wrong, and it's also a selfish idea.
Well, there is also an unexpected cuteness in such a place, but I can't admit it, I can't be honest, and even if I'm told the right thing, I can't take it into myself well.
It's a clash of emotions and instincts.
Of course, this will be a fight, right?
It's almost nothing good to hurt the other person and yourself.
Well, the point is that the right argument is certainly correct, but sometimes and in some cases, it can correct people, and on the contrary, it can hurt them. It was a familiar story in the self-development and coaching community.
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