How to gain trust as a listener and bring out your true feelings.

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Well, today, I'm going to talk about "how to gain trust as a listener and bring out my true feelings" while brushing up my past blog.

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When does it happen when you get angry with people?

It often happens that when you are asked to act or say something different from what you intended, don't you get mad?

Right? (What)

If you think about it carefully, you'll understand, and in fact, I'm angry for a very simple reason.

For example, when a young child throws something that should not be thrown, adults get angry because they don't know the reason.

Well, there are people who don't even try to know the reason and get angry without thinking...

But please think about it.

Maybe I had a bad feeling because my friend did something to me first.

In this way, if the child can properly explain the reason why he threw it, it's not too late to get angry even after listening to the explanation.

If you listen to the story and make a mistake, you can get angry, and even if you don't get angry, you can politely tell the right thing.

In other words, if you know the reason, "Oh, that's right!" Because you have time to think about it, you won't get angry, and on the contrary, if you don't know the reason, your emotions will precede you without thinking, so you will get angry.

However, it is up to the other party to decide whether to say the reason or not, and we can't necessarily make you say it.

The more angry you get, the more you can't say it, and the harder it is to say the right reason.

So first of all, create an atmosphere that makes it easier to say the reason.

This is important, isn't it?

If you show a calm expression, use calm language and tone of voice, or if the other person still believes in you, you will listen to "I want you to explain the reason because you don't get angry" with proper words.

When I hear the reason, I also thank you for what you taught me properly.

"Thank you for talking to me."

The answer you told me can be a lie.

I might not say the right thing because I'm afraid that I might get angry at first.

But that's fine.

If anything, either reason is fine.

First of all, it's about building trust.

To answer this question properly.

This is important, and it is important for the other person to think, "Oh, this person is a person who listens to me" whether there is this answer or not.

(Most people have a desire to listen to themselves.

In other words, you like talking more than listening.

That's why a person who can be a listener is a very valuable human resource.

Moreover, when you listen to people, you really want to give advice and answers to your worries.

But in most cases, the other person doesn't need it.

I'd like you to think about yourself a little here, what do you think?

When you talk to people about your worries, there are usually answers in yourself, and there are many times when you just want you to affirm it and say, "Your answer is right"?

Actually, you can't tell anyone about the real problem you want an answer, right?

So, first of all, it is important to be trusted, and after being trusted, you can go up to the stage where you can talk about your true feelings.

And trust starts with being devoted to listening.)

The time it takes to have that thought varies from person to person.

Some people hold it right away, and some people have a broken relationship at first, so it takes time to hold it.

(For example, a child who has been denying himself since he was young is too self-denial, and people who have been betrayed by adults and friends do not try to trust others.

Because even if I trust you again, I'm afraid of being betrayed and hurting myself.

That's why people who have been abused don't try to believe people, and even if they don't go as far as abuse, those who use negative words with something, people who use words that hurt others calmly, and those who say this deny themselves. The habit of doing it is stuck tightly, so you need to start by taking that habit first.

That's why it takes time.

Trust takes time to build, but it's quick to lose.

It's exactly the relationship between savings and waste.)

But if you can't leave that person, I recommend that you don't give up and continue to listen patiently.

If you are in a relationship where you can leave, I recommend that you leave immediately.

(The reason why it's better to leave right away is time.

It's just a matter of whether you can take the time to be trusted or not.

If you have time to spare, you can be patient and keep the contact point, and if you can't take much time due to other things, the contact point will be halfway, so on the contrary, it will create distrust and make you even more swilled, so it will be halfway. If it's Rai, it's better for you to withdraw once.)

Well, back to the story, everyone gets angry because they don't know the reason, and they don't get angry when they know the reason, or they have a habit of halving their anger.

After that, it's up to you to decide whether to get angry or not.

If it's happier to live while being angry, it's better to do so, and if you're happier if you're not angry, you can live happily if you practice what I just told you.

All that's left is for you to decide.

I chose a way of life without getting angry, so it's going well so far.

Thanks to that, I'm almost stress-free.

See you later✌️

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