A feeling of hurt.

Being vulnerable can be related to your basic nature, but it can also be due to past experiences that have made you vulnerable.

Because we are strong creatures, we are just vulnerable in the present. You can change your vulnerability gradually, if not immediately.

Because of past learning, we tend to take events based on our aggressive experiences, and we end up with an extreme A or B mindset, which leads to poor thinking and a bias toward one answer.

Relaxing this mindset is the key to moving away from vulnerability.

First, break down events into facts and interpretations. Let's say you have someone who immediately says, "No man." The vulnerable person is told, "No," or "I've been in the same situation before," or "It's my fault." "You don't like me," or so the story goes.

But the fact is that the other person says, "No," and the rest of the interpretation is a "belief or delusion" by the recipient.

Was he really addressing you? Did he say he hated you? Did he confirm that he hated you?

In addition, some people have different thoughts and words. When I asked if the word "stupid" and the other person's feelings were the same, they replied that it was a habit.

When you think about it separately, it's easier to notice your assumptions and think in a positive way, like, "Is there another possibility?" and the idea expands in a good direction.

Being vulnerable is like a habit. With a little knowledge of your mindset, you can move away from being vulnerable. Another way to do this is to drink a cup of tea, get in touch with nature, or do some distractions.

"You made fun of me!" Let's take a moment to get to that simple idea. It's enough to spread the good spirit and move away from extreme thinking.

What kind of smile do you grow as you look at different situations and become mentally tough?

Is hurt more of a gain or a loss for you?