【Random notes】Essentially, humans don't want advice.

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People don't want advice in the first place, unless they are in need of it.

Even at work, the overwhelming majority of jobs involve encouraging people to do what they want to do, rather than giving advice.

In short, “I don't need advice. I want help.

In the first place, no matter how correct it is, other people's opinions will not be implemented.

The criterion for implementation is not only whether it is right or wrong, but also whether you want to do it or not.

However, what makes human beings troublesome is the fact that it is necessary to have “adopted one's own opinion after listening to the opinions of others.

I am not comfortable making a decision alone, so I will listen to other people's opinions, even though my mind has already made up my mind.

At that time, I want them to say, “I like that,” without saying anything else.

This is many people's true feelings about “advice”.

By default, the idea that “people don't need advice” is by far the more versatile.

Therefore, when advice is being sought, it would be helpful to have the mannerisms of a counselor, rather than pretending to be a consultant.

In such cases, for example, the following points should be noted.

■Be a lightning rod (listen intently to the complaints and forget about them as soon as you hear them)

■Don't talk about yourself.

■ Leave them alone when you hear them because you can't do other people's business.

■Only talk about what you are asked

■Advice other than information is invalid

■Don't be a critic

■Listen. Don't ask.