【MONOLOG in English】No.１０

English Essay：【How to increase self-esteem】

 FIrst and foremost, please let me ask you this question. Is your self-esteem high? or low? The answer will be different depends on each person. In my individual opinon, keeping self-estem high is quite hard. Acutually, mine is very unstable and low despite asking this… However, everyone might think that [ I wanna feel more confident about myself !] or [ Don't wanna compared to others, and hope to appreciate myself ]. Other than them, nobody craves to be dissapointed in themselves.

 Secondly, is it okay if I tell you my story? Same as what I told you previous paragraph, I don't consider that my self-esteem is stable and high. Speaking of myself, when it comes to my mind is always [ How others evaluate me ] or [ How I can avoid low evaluations from friends ]. In a word, I am all the time afraid of what they think about me. The background contains my vanity, irritation, anxiety. probably, I think the absurd experience of being scolded for doing nothing wrong is also strongly connected this phycology. When I was in elementary school, I faced many scences that I scolded emotionally in front of other pupils by teachers. They were so traumatic memories and they left indelible wounds inside of my heart…(to be honest). Since then, I became sensitive to other people's glances, evaluations, facial expressions, and tone of voice. But!! I determined to myself. I try not to be afraid of those anymore and I want to cherish myself more than ever!!

 Now, what I write from now will be the most important wrap-up. The methods to increase self-esteem we can try right away are…
1. NOT compare ourselves to others.
2. Notice what you are good at and what you can do. And, strengthen them more.
3.All you have to do is to love yourself and reconfirm that you're irreplaceable.
4.Have some methods to heal yourself.
5.Have somebody who you can trust and consult with from bottom of your heart.

I hope those can support you.
Also, I really would like to live with high self-esteem from now ;)