【Psychology of Love】 Love can work out dramatically just by doing this.

Today, I'd like to introduce you to "Love can work out dramatically just by doing this simple tip".

When people fell in love with each other, They think and want to know about each other. The situation is where they are facing each other.

It is fine to be like that at the beginning of the relationship, but if it continues for a long time, It often does not work out as you expect. Why is that?

Here are some causes that I can think of...　

Expecting too much of each other.
Spoiling too much of each other.
Having less time being alone, so your daily habits are disrupted.
Having less time being alone,  So you are missing out on your goal or dream.
Having less time with your friends, and they are not happy about it.

There are many possible causes like these ones, but simply, you become blinded by love. It is a very dangerous situation.
You're looking at your lover too much so you can't see yourself well.

Today's topic would be a solution to this dangerous situation.

This simple solution is so easy. If you do this, your worries will disappear instantly, and your relationships will be dramatically smoother.

And it's not just about love and marriage but also all relationships, so even if you're having trouble with your relationships other than love, I hope you'll stay with me until the end of this topic as well.

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Love does not consist in gazing at each other.

Let's get into the point. "Look in the same direction, side by side" is the solution.

Dating, love, and marriage can work out dramatically if you just look in the same direction side by side.

The French "Antoine de Saint-Exupéry", famous for the "The little princes", also put it this way.

Love does not consist in gazing at each other, but in looking together in the same direction.
-Antoine de Saint-Exupéry

It's not about looking at each other, but it's about looking in the same direction together.

The Stinger Effect

In the world of psychology, it is called the "Stinger effect".

What is the Stinger Effect?

The Stinger effect is a "psychological effect" that changes depending on where you sit, as summarized by the American psychologist Stinger.

Sit in front of the other person (face-to-face).
Stinger says that sitting in front of the other person will give the other person the impression of.....　
- Enemy
- Confrontation
- Tension
- Pressure
It is likely to have a negative psychological impression.
When you get into a fight, you have the image of putting your face close to the other person's to intimidate them, right? They are instinctively putting pressure on their opponents face-to-face.

Sitting side-by-side 
Stinger says that sitting side by side will give the other person the impression of.....　
- Cooperator
- Coordination
- Affection
- Familiarity
This is likely to have a positive psychological impression.

It doesn't just work for marriage or long term relationships, but also when it comes to dating.

In my previous post, "How to Find the Right Marriage Partner," I mentioned that I recommend going for a walk as a date, that's also due to the Stinger Effect.

If you want to dig more about finding the right marriage partner, please check it out too.

Walking dates walk side by side so you can avoid the face-to-face, but the problem is when it comes to going to a restaurant. It's easy to choose a restaurant with face-to-face seating, but as I mentioned earlier, sitting face-to-face creates the psychological pressure of confrontation and tension.

Try to choose a bar, cafe or a sushi train where you can eat side by side with two people as much as possible.

Also, sitting side by side increases the chance that your skin touches each other. And it boosts happy hormone called "oxytocin", which has an additional positive effect to the date.

Sit side by side as much as possible if you think the person is important to you.

Summing up

Today we talked about how dating, love and marriage can work out dramatically if you just look in the same direction side by side.

People tend to not get along well with each other if they face-to-face too much, so if you're with your important person, stay side by side and look in the same direction. If possible, please share your goals and visions more often. By doing that, you two are naturally facing the same direction.

I think what we've talked about today applies to not only love relationships but also other relationships, including business or a project.

If the team shares the goals and visions constantly, conflicts will be reduced, and relationships will improve dramatically because each person will become a friend instead of an enemy.

If you have a problem with an important relationship, get side by side with a shared goal or vision. That's your action plan for this topic.

Thank you for staying with me till the end of this topic. I hope you find it useful and hit the like and subscription buttons. 

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