A choice of ways to talk that makes you like the person you meet for the first time
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Is there anything you are careful about when you talk to someone you meet for the first time?
For example, correcting manners, being careful about the use of words, showing a lot of smiles, well, if you say it, there are too many techniques that make the other person feel liked, and that's right.
But well, I tried to mention this theme today, so I'm going to talk about how to talk for the first time, which is a relatively important category among them.
Why do you think it's important to meet for the first time in the first place?
Is there anyone who understands?
The reason why it's important to meet for the first time.
The reason is that people seem to have a psychological effect of pulling the first impression for about 2 years after that.
In other words, if you have a bad first impression, every time you meet for about 2 years after that, you will say, "Ah! This person is a person who had a bad impression" will continue.
On the contrary, if the first impression is good, "Ah! This person is a person who made a good impression," but for about two years after that, he will follow around like a bonus.
At this point, it's obvious which one is better, isn't it?
That's right.
The first impression is that good things work more favorably than bad.
Well, what is such an important first impression, a technique of how to talk to make people you meet for the first time a good impression, it is that you don't only talk about yourself.
How is it?
Was it a phrase you've heard somewhere before?
If you have read a book about "the power of listening", it may be a phrase you've heard at least once.
Then, I will talk about this about why not only talking about yourself will blow up your impression on the other person.
First of all, there is a hint of people's ancient habits.
First of all, people like to be listened to rather than listen to them in the first place.
In other words, many people all want to talk.
Children are already that mass, aren't they?
When you get home from school, you want to tell your mother everything right away, don't you?
It's innocent, so there's no limiter.
So, if there are people who listen to you, you will become a very valuable human resource from such people, so it will be useful no matter where you go.
Even this alone is quite likable, isn't it?
Moreover, when we meet for the first time, there are many people who have to talk to each other and feel strange, so the story that comes out is a story about themselves.
But there aren't many people who say "Yeah, I see" when they suddenly talked about themselves from the beginning, right?
You may listen to me at first, but if anything, in my heart, "How long will this person talk about himself?" Or, "I'm done with the old heroic stories," or "I don't want to be told that it's my former partner," and I told a story that the person I met for the first time was not interested in, one after another, and in the end, I thought I continued talking hard. Just because it has become, it can also be that it is only a painful time from the other party's point of view.
In this case, instead of being liked, it's causing pain, so on the contrary, it's a bad impression, isn't it?
So, if you know that conversation can be composed not just by talking, but by letting the other person talk, it won't be strange, right?
You just have to let the other person talk, you just have to listen to him, and it's close to a win-win relationship at that point, isn't it?
In other words, it is already confirmed that it is easy to build a good relationship by itself, but in order to make it a little thicker, I recommend that you talk about 20% of your story.
In the end, if you listen to people, you may be certified as a good person, but you have to know what kind of person you are, so while the other person talks about 80%, 20% of this story is also involved, starting at this level. If you do it, I think you will be able to have a conversation with the other person comfortably.
So, if you are worried about the conversation with someone you met for the first time, please try this method once in your real life.
I'm sure it will go well.
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