I'm stepping into privacy, what should I do?(continued from yesterday)

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Well, today is the continuation of yesterday, "I'm stepping into privacy, what should I do?" I will answer the continuation of my worries.

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So it's a continuation of yesterday...

In fact, most people have many personalities just because they are not conscious of it, so please don't worry and enjoy the dual personality and triple personality.

For example, the feeling of becoming an actor.

Also, at the end, I will go back a little to the beginning, but those who can't say clearly, "Please stop stepping into privacy."

What I recommend to these people is to send a letter, try to tell the other person by e-mail or LINE.

Please try this first.

With this, you can convey your intention without looking directly at the other person's face, and if that doesn't work, there is also a way to use listening and gossip.

In other words, it's a way to tell your feelings to the other person by borrowing someone else's mouth.

If you talk to other people like, "I don't like stepping into Mr. 〇〇's privacy without permission," it may go around and get into the person's ears.

That's the aim.

If possible, it's best to have someone close to the person you want to be told, or someone who is on good terms with you.

But if it's difficult, it's already appropriate, so it's a good idea to tell the people around you.

However, if the number of people talking to the people around you is too large, it will be just a "person who talks behind your back", so we recommend that you keep it to about 3 people at most.

In addition, it will be a little rough method, but there are also places where you can hear the other person on purpose, in the tone of voice, in an atmosphere that is a little troubled, and talk to other people about what they don't like.

When you have courage and tell the other person directly, there is also a way to devise a way to communicate it.

It is a so-called way of communicating without corners, and it is a technique generally called assertion.

I will only explain it here, but if you want to know the details, please ask Dr. Google.

Well, the point of the assertion is, there is only one.

Try to protect this much and try to talk to the other person.

What it is, it means that you never blame the other person.

From my point of view, it's certainly the other person who is doing something bad, but even if you blame it, the other person will not admit it first, so it will be a way of speaking on the premise that you will not admit it.

From the beginning, if you don't admit it even if you blame it, then from the beginning, I will also adopt the idea of giving up blaming.

So, how do you talk specifically? But first of all, I'm going to make a mind.

You create a heart that says "I don't blame the other person" in yourself.

Please try to say what you are going to say in order in your heart.

First of all, "Not blaming the other party means that the other party is not bad."

Next, "It's not bad, so you don't have to point out the bad points of the other person."

If you can make this word fall into your heart, the main theme when you talk to the other person, that is, what you want to convey the most, will not be the other person's bad place, so this time it will naturally become me.

By the way, I don't think it's almost there, but it's a confirmation.

In such a serious situation, there is no need to talk about people who have nothing to do with it or talk about the weather.

I'll tell you, but the main purpose is to convey what you don't like without touching the other person's feelings as much as possible.

Then, this time, the subject becomes me.

In other words, "How do you feel?" "How do you feel after receiving the other person's words and actions?" I'll try to tell the other person.

For example, "I'm very troubled when you ask me about privacy."

If you do that, the other person will not be pointed out your bad points, but will misunderstand without permission, saying, "The other person is in trouble."

With this, you will be able to indirectly tell the other person what you don't like, much more than pointing out the bad things of the other person directly.

However, it is not a technique that the other party will not get angry at all, completely admit the fault, and never touch private topics anymore, or something like that, so please understand that.

It's just one of the techniques to make it easier to convey what you want to convey without touching the other person's emotions as much as possible.

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Today's answer.

I've been talking for 2 days, but like this, I tried to pick up and answer everyone's problems that are overflowing on the Internet about once every 3 days.

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