The psychology of people who destroy other people's dreams
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Well, today I'm going to talk about "the psychology of people who destroy other people's dreams."
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Well, about two days ago?
I think you talked about Dream Crusher.
Also known as Dream Killer.
Well, it doesn't matter which way you call it.
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So, isn't there a lot around you?
I mean, haven't you met me several times in your life that you've lived so far?
For those who have a dream crusher element.
For example, school teachers, parents, friends, siblings, cram school instructors, and learning teachers.
It's mainly about the so-called people who were born before themselves and have experienced a lot of things.
However, not everyone, the people who were born before themselves, have this dream crusher element.
It's just a story that there are a certain number of people like that.
Well, in this Japan, more than half of them have this crusher-like element, don't they?
Because there is a saying that the stake that comes out will be struck, isn't there?
The background of this proverb is that there is an unforgivable culture of doing things different from others, right?
If you do something different from others and stand out, you will be criticized by people around you.
That's why I'm defeated by that criticism and stop being conspicuous.
In other words, it's probably because there were many people who tried to kill challenges and what they wanted to do, and lived a normal life and the stable life that others wanted.
I think it's probably true that this proverb still remains.
So, I came up with a little bit of today's conclusion early, but did you notice?
About the psychology of people who destroy other people's dreams.
That's because they think that everyone has to be the same.
"Everyone is like that, so you should do the same," or "I won't allow you to run away!" Or, "Everyone is doing their best, but you can't just like it!" Or, there is a big possibility that you have a strange sense of camaraderie.
This consciousness came out strongly, and the representative event is probably war.
Thanks to various biases and lobbies, such as "Everyone is enduring, so you should be patient too," "Everyone is going with a suicide attack, so you should also do your best" and so on. At that time, all the Japanese people may have been at the suggestion.
Moreover, I understand how you feel.
For example, I give up my dream, say it's for my family, and live a stable life, so I feel envious that others will challenge their dreams.
So I try to pull back, saying, "You can't do it even if you try anyway, so let's live warmly with us until the end at the place where you are."
If you say it's the nature of people from ancient times, it's true, but because if the number of friends decreases, the probability of survival may decrease.
So I don't want to get away from the herd.
It's no wonder that such a psychology works.
But in the end, this psychology only thinks about yourself, doesn't it?
I'm holding you back because I don't want to sense my own crisis and reduce my friends.
In other words, it's called supreservation.
Other than that, I'm worried about that person.
Some people will be interpreted like this.
But this is also my own protection in the end.
At first glance, you worry about the other person and say, "It's better to be in a place where you can be safe and secure without such a reckless challenge."
Moreover, if you only listen to the words, it sounds like you're worried about people, but when you fail, you don't want to get involved in troublesome things, so you're just trying to make them think stably.
For example, parents oppose the child's challenge.
I'm thinking about my child, but in the end, when my child's challenge fails, the follow-up after that is troublesome, so I'm just trying to choose the one who can live safely.
The same goes for school teachers and cram school instructors.
It is the same psychology to advance a destination where you can pass more stably than the challenge.
It's all for my own protection.
There is a feeling that it is a little too much to say self-protection, but sometimes self-protection itself is also important.
Protecting yourself leads to stabilizing your mental health.
Only after you are mentally stable can you become altruistic.
I understand the mechanism, but anyway, I wrote it on my blog the day before yesterday, but don't you want to be a person who can support you?
Don't you want to be a person who can help other people's dreams come true, not just your own self-protection?
That's why I'm still in the coaching business.
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