I think we're having a normal conversation, but I'm saying nonsense, what should I do?
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Today's consultant thinks we're having a normal conversation, but for some reason, he says something trivial.
Well, there are two ways to solve this kind of problem, and the first one is "I think we're having a conversation", right?
In the content of the consultation.
This "intent" is actually the key to unraveling this problem, and "intend" is a word you use when you think on your own.
In other words, this consultant is thinking that he is having a normal conversation without permission.
If you deal with it, even if it's not like that.
However, if you realize it at this point, the rest is easy.
All you have to do is get rid of that assumption and think about the other person and have a conversation.
That's all it takes.
That's all.
Speaking of which, it's a bit rough ending, so I'll add a little more.
For example, it is often said that "I intend to do 〇〇", but everyone uses it normally, doesn't it?
I think I'm cleaning, I think I'm working, I think I'm studying.
This is a line that is completely directed at yourself.
Even if you think you're doing 〇〇, but from the other person's point of view, it's just that you think you're doing 〇〇, and from our point of view, it doesn't look like you're doing 〇〇 at all.
Cleaning, work, and study.
That's why there are mistakes on both sides due to differences in the way they see and perceive.
This means that this consultant is talking to me, and there is a high probability that he is only talking about himself.
So first of all, try to be aware of talking not only to yourself, but also to the other person.
If you do that, you will be able to have a good conversation with the other person.
When you talk to the other person, how can you convey it well to the other person, or what kind of story are you interested in? And so, it means that you can have a conversation while thinking about the other person, so if you can do this, you won't have a casual conversation.
But there are a lot of people who can't do this unexpectedly.
Well, it can't be helped, but almost all people are creatures who want to talk about themselves.
There were past experiences where I couldn't survive if I didn't.
There are parts that can't be helped, but it's not enough to just "intend".
If you don't consciously talk to the other person, one day the conversation will not mesh and you will be in a state of tingling.
Therefore, instead of talking only to yourself, sometimes to the other person, and try to have a conversation with the other person in mind.
If you do that, the conversation will also interlock.
Well, there is another solution.
That is the key to solving the point that "it will become a tonchinkan".
First of all, what I would like you to think about is what kind of state is it? That's what it means.
What do you all think?
Have you ever thought about it?
Or did you just think about it?
Even a little?
You see, this stupid state is a state in which you can't organize your head well.
Or it is a state that is as close as possible to that state.
In other words, there is a high probability that you are having a conversation in a state that is not well organized.
If you can't organize your head well, it means that there are a lot of things you want to talk about one after another, and the information processing is not in time.
Even though the information processing is not in time, instead of talking about what I want to talk about one by one, the next story, the next story, the next story, because the story is unfolding one after another, I can't catch up. Su.
For example, it feels like having a conversation alone like an associative game.
"Did you watch yesterday's 〇〇 drama? Who do you think is the last culprit? Oh! Speaking of which, speaking of the culprit, it seems that a thief broke into the house in front of our house the other day, and the culprit hasn't been caught yet, it's scary. Speaking of scary, my boss suddenly said something strange the other day, and he said something impossible, and it's really horror." It feels like the story is developing sideways starting with one word one after another without deepening one topic.
When you talk like this, quite a lot of people are confused.
The topic goes there and there.
I'm tired, I have to be a person with a lot of wavelength.
Isn't there a lot of people who are not good at men in particular?
However, even such a person, in terms of personality, will get along with people who are not interested in other people's stories, and such people can have appropriate conversations, so it's rare to have such a trivial conversation. Hey.
However, today's consultant is said to be a tonchinkan, so I think the conversation partner is probably a person who is serious in personality and wants to delve into each topic a little more.
Or, it's modest and simply can't keep up with the development of the story.
So, after all, isn't it important to solve this kind of problem with the other person?
As I said at the beginning, why don't you try to talk about the other person in a half-to-half ratio if possible, instead of talking only about yourself?
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