I always stumble on human relationships at work, what should I do?

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Well, today, "I always stumble in relationships at work, what should I do?" I will answer your concerns.

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Then I'll answer.

Before that, the first thing I want you to think about is what it means to stumble on human relationships?

For example, you should have been close, but you were being talked about behind your back, you couldn't get along because you couldn't communicate well, or you always made people angry, etc.

If so, there is a simple solution to this.

However, even if a person who has not been able to do well so far suddenly tries to do this method, he can't do it right away.

So, first of all, I refuse, but a training period of at least 3 months is required.

If you do it at a slow pace, it will take about half a year.

1 month if you do it every day.

First of all, first of all, I didn't know the idea to tell you next.

So, I won't start if I don't let you lower my stomach firmly on how to tell you from now on.

Next, make the content you have fallen into a habit, this time.

You drop it deep into your body so that you can do it naturally.

For example, like brushing your teeth or breathing.

If you go that far, you're relieved.

It's definitely yours, so no matter which workplace you go to or any community you go to, you won't stumble over your relationships.

What?

It's easy, isn't it?

Easy 2 steps.

1、Live every day with a firm awareness of what you are going to tell you.

Repeat 2 and 1, keep doing it for at least 3 months, ideally for half a year.

Now, let's actually talk about the method.

Here, too, the way of thinking is very simple.

It is to "observe everything about the other person carefully".

Observation is to look at the person with your eyes and grasp the overall picture, listen to the person with your ears and capture the state image of the person.

Well, in addition, touching, smelling, tasting, and then feeling, the so-called five senses plus the sixth sense.

Make full use of this to grasp the current state of the other party.

I'll tell you, but it doesn't mean "be a stalker".

If anything, is the meaning of "become a fan" more appropriate?

If you grasp the current image of the person's condition, you will see what you should do next.

So, in the end, if you follow what you have seen, you can control the other person depending on whether you can take the other person comfortably or unpleasantly.

So first of all, get to know the other person deeply.

I recommend starting from now on.

After that, for example, you will learn skills such as honing conversation techniques, learning how to communicate well, and acquiring techniques to open the heart of the other person.

First of all, "observation" is necessary to build a good relationship.

Observe the other person carefully.

It means "to know deeply with interest".

Even so, it's not like I'm staring around or sticking to it like a close interview.

If you do that, you will feel bad or you will be called to the police.

Please stop for sure.

What I mean by observation is to catch and grasp the personal information that the other person's words, actions, facial expressions, gestures, gestures, clothing, belongings, etc., which the person himself naturally sends to others, so to speak.

After all, we collect the information in a natural way.

It's okay to hear stories from people, it's also a powerful source of information.

But you can't forcefully ask for information about that person from others, which is also very natural.

In this way, as you know various information, you can see the whole picture of that person.

What kind of upbringing you've been, what kind of environment you're in, what kind of things you're thinking about, what you like, etc., that person's virtual clones can be roughly created in your head.

The rest is the final touch, if you can do that.

All you have to do is say something that makes that person happy.

When it comes to whether comfort or discomfort is good, people definitely have a habit of choosing the comfortable one.

Everyone agrees with this, doesn't it?

However, there are people inside who like discomfort.

However, here, we will proceed with the conversation by prioritizing the comfortable one that the majority of people will choose.

The reason why comfort is more comfortable for people is simply because you can feel at ease.

People are creatures that seek peace of mind.

I think this is also a convincing story.

It's better to be relieved than to be anxious all the time, isn't it?

If you are too anxious and your sympathetic nerves are always working in the upper hand, your heart is pounding too much, and your body will do something about it, right?

That's why many people tend to choose peace of mind and comfort.

That means, if you are trying to build good relationships with others, it means that people who create a comfortable state during a conversation are definitely more advantageous to build relationships well than those who create uncomfortable relationships during a conversation.

After that, just repeat it.

That alone will greatly reduce the number of people who stumble on relationships in the workplace.

However, there are people who don't like it here either.

In other words, there are people who are talking to each other, flattering, and flattering.

There is a high possibility that those people will not be accepted, but there is no choice but to give up.

There is no place to look for a saint who can be accepted by everyone.

In other words, in a community where you have to be involved with a large number of people, such as work or school, it is obvious that it is overwhelmingly easier to be accepted by the majority than the minority.

So, for those who always stumble in relationships at work, I recommend a method that can be accepted by the majority and end today's story.

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