Discommunication that invites people's mistakes.

Hello, everyone.

Sai&Co.WAKU Chare Lab's Sai&Co. It is.

Well, today I'm going to brush up my past blog and talk about "discommunication that invites people's mistakes".

First of all, if you say "It was good" about today's story, please share it😁

Now is the main topic.

Isn't it difficult to talk to each other?

Well, there are people who don't care, but I'm the type to talk to after thinking a lot.

I'm like that, but if you talk to me when I'm working towards something, I'll lose my concentration, and when I'm thinking, I have to turn my thoughts to the other person once.

When you're thinking about difficult things or you're about to get an answer, don't you actually want to talk to you too much?

That's why I try to observe the other person's gestures.

If you observe the gestures, what is the other person's state of mind now?

Are you desperate? Aren't you there?

You will come to understand.

(Even if you say to observe, if you look at it in front of people, you can see it with strange eyes, but unless it's not, unexpected people don't notice that they are being watched. Please try to look at people's faces. Which one is it suitable for? You're mostly looking forward, aren't you? Moreover, people's field of view is about 120 degrees, so for example, there are many people who can't see it because they can't enter the field of view even if they are staring at it from the side. No, people with sharp sensibilities sometimes say, "I feel some kind of gaze!" Some people notice the condition, but some of them are insensitive, and even if you look at them with a good feeling, they don't notice at all. So it's a little off topic, but sometimes "I'm worried about people's gaze!" There are people who say that, but it's almost my misunderstanding, and almost the people around me don't see you. Well, even if it's not zero, even if it's seen, it's only for a moment. Then, the reason why I'm misunderstanding that I'm being watched is quite easy to answer, and in fact, I'm looking around more often, so I just think that everyone is looking at me. Please try to have your friends help you and experiment with it. " Where were you looking at the moment when you felt the gaze now? And where was the person in that gaze looking? There are a lot of things that don't match unexpectedly. If you think there is a possibility that your friend is lying, of course it doesn't matter who you can trust. Like this, behind the scenes where you think that the other person is conscious of you, in fact, you are only conscious of the other person first, and your psychology mistakenly mistaken that the other person is conscious of yourself first. You're letting me do it. There is also an interesting psychological phenomenon hidden here.)

Well, if you really don't know, you can just ask him.

(When I wrote this blog, I told you to listen to it, but if your human relationship is too broken, you won't answer even if you ask, or you will be lied, so how good a good relationship you can build on a daily basis by then is poi. It's Nto.)

This is my subjectivity, but the matter that comes in from people is usually something that doesn't matter to me, or it's totally okay to ask later.

In normal times, there is almost no urgent need.

But there are so many people who try to tell it right away...

It may be important for that person, but for others, you don't have to ask now!

Moreover, I went out of my way to stop my hand...

It's true that talking to people is very important for physical contact.

I understand that.

But please think about it again before I tell you.

Do you want to tell the other party that you have to stop you for a while when you are thinking about difficult things or when you are in a hurry?

(This is strange, but there are quite a lot of people who can't think about who to tell what they think they have to tell. That's why I told someone who had nothing to do with it at all, and the person who was told naturally said it, "?" Will be on, right? Is it only Japanese people who have been forced to stop thinking that this will happen?)

Still, when I have something to tell you, at least say, "I'm sorry. Is it a little good?" Please ask him.

Otherwise, you will be drawn by inviting the other party's mistakes and reducing efficiency.

(There are quite a lot of people who don't know that if you suddenly enter, you may invite the other person's mistake. It is said that there are about 2 to 3 tasks that people can do at the same time. If you do it any more, it will be less efficient, your productivity will decrease, and mistakes will be noticeable. Moreover, women are better at multitasking than men. That said, in the case of an errand that is not urgent, it's better not to force yourself to do it. Sometimes, "If you don't tell me quickly, you'll forget!" Some people say that, but forgetting means that it's not very important to you. By forcing yourself to tell it to the other person, it's good to work without mistakes, but if you think about the price when you fail, that is, the cover of mistakes and the loss of trust, it is obvious which one is smarter. It's just when you're not in a hurry.)

You will receive a so-called certification that you can't read the atmosphere.

Therefore, I recommend that you observe the other person's gestures and facial expressions carefully before calling out.

(There are not so many points to observe people if you narrow down quite a bit. In the worst case, if you just know whether the other person's heart is swinging negatively or positive, you can choose the words you will say after that. Is this the place called the basics? That means, of course, there is also an application. Regarding this application, there is a little trick, so if you know the trick, you can choose and multiply the words that are more in line with the other person's heart. Then, the other person will automatically trust you and trust you. I will explain the specific method on my official LINE, so please register as a friend. I will post the line ID and QR code at the bottom of this blog.)

So how was this story today?

If you say "It was good", please introduce it to your friends and colleagues at the company.

See you later✌️