I can't refuse when asked, what should I do?
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Today's consultant is a person who has a constitution that can't refuse when asked.
This is such a constitution, so why don't you improve your constitution?
In other words, you can lose weight or build a muscular body by exercising and managing your diet, just like a fat person loses weight, just like a fat person becomes a fat macho.
It's an image though.
So, it's a little hard at first.
Because you are switching from your previous self to your new self.
But today's consultant wants to change himself who can't refuse when asked, right?
You want to "say goodbye" to yourself like that, right?
In that case, I have no choice but to do my best for a while, and I think there is no other way but to work hard and train until I can make myself so that I can refuse well.
But because I can't do it, there are many people who are worried, but when people who do not have exercise habits or dietary moderation habits start a diet, they first need to abandon their previous habits and acquire a new habit called diet-specialized habits. Right?
The structure is the same as this.
When you are reborn from yourself who can't refuse to yourself who can refuse, you can make it a habit of being able to refuse.
Well, I was a little strict at the beginning, but what to do is very simple.
It's "It doesn't matter if it's a small thing, so I'll actually try to refuse."
Suddenly, if you suddenly refuse something you've been taking on for a long time, it takes a lot of courage, doesn't it?
Or, it takes a lot of courage to refuse what you are asked to do with high pressure, doesn't it?
So, first of all, accumulate practice of refusing small requests.
If it is difficult to refuse even a small request from a person who is difficult to refuse, start with the request of a person who is easy to refuse.
Little by little.
Once you get used to it, this time, in terms of the scale of each request, it will shift to something a little bigger.
And in the end, it feels like you're trying to do something big, and you gradually shift your resistance from low to something big, and you refuse.
If you do that, your brain will gradually change, so your self-defense instinct will not work, and you will lose resistance to refusing relatively smoothly.
Well, it's best if you have the courage to be brave.
You can refuse as quickly as possible.
Suddenly, all you have to do is refuse every request from a person who has the strongest resistance and says, "I can never refuse a request from this person."
Well, maybe the air in the place will freeze.
However, on the other hand, if there is no such big opportunity to change the atmosphere of the place, I think the workplace climate that relies on the consultant will not change quite a lot.
So after that, it is up to the consultant himself to decide whether to choose a route that changes the climate steadily or to suddenly change the climate at once, so I think it's good to choose your own most comfortable method.
Unless it's obvious bullying or insidious harassment, unexpectedly, even if you refuse, the other person will say, "Oh, yes, I understand," and it may not be casual.
It's just my own assumption, or it's a runaway consciousness of weakness, so I'm not too careful, relax my shoulders, and lightly say, "I'm sorry, I'm busy right now, and I can't do that." I think so.
However, there is one thing to note.
If you continue to refuse everything, you will be certified as a person who is not in harmony with those around you, so it will be a reason to destroy human relationships.
So, refuse in moderation.
Please make a proper selection.
Please consider the interests of others, not for your own interests, and try to make that choice.
Also, as a guideline for starting to refuse, if you feel uncomfortable, it is already a yellow light flashing, so if you feel like that, it's time to refuse.
If you do that, I think you won't have to go to the red light like the current state.
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