I'm being too careful, what should I do? (continued from yesterday)
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Well, today is a continuation of yesterday.
"I'm too careful, what should I do?" I will answer the continuation of my worries.
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I'm quite convinced of this, but people who realized what they noticed have to do it, or they have to move it right away, and "it's their job to do that" without permission, and immediately take the initiative. Don't you have to do it?
At first, well, I was doing it with good intentions, but eventually, the atmosphere was created, such as "It's Mr. A's role to do 〇〇" and "Mr. B usually does 〇〇", and no matter how stuck you are, how busy you feel Even if you put it out, for some reason no one moves, and it doesn't matter if you keep it as it is before you do it?
This phenomenon is actually quite perfect, isn't it?
Because the first one was just doing it because I thought it was good.
People who like it are good, because they like it.
There will be almost no problems, but people who don't like it, if anything, people who don't feel satisfied if they don't do it, will do it more if they think it's good, it will become a problem later and push themselves. Yes.
Those are the people like today's consultants.
So, you can ignore the things that you haven't decided who will do it in the first place.
Even if you are instructed by your boss, a colleague will say, "Oh, it's 〇〇's job, isn't it?" Even if you say, "No, it's different from the original," or "I can't let go of my hand now,"
It's okay to refuse with various gues.
Then the people around you are also selfish, or to say, people's habits are really interesting, and when someone stops doing it, the next person to play that role will come out.
Almost 100% probability.
So, this consultant, please try to practice it with courage.
I'm sure there will be a turnout phenomenon that will allow you to get out of the current situation.
Surprisingly, there are people who come out to replace you much more than you are worried about, and on the contrary, there are times when you feel relaxed.
At that time, let's be honest and spoil the person instead.
So, so far, it was one of the techniques to not use too much care by force techniques.
There are various other techniques to relieve the habit of using too much care, ways to rewrite the mind, so to speak, symptomatic therapy and root treatment, but if you want to do something right away, I think this method is the best way. I will.
So, by all means, if you really want to cure the habit of being too careful, you can do it from a little thing.
If it is difficult to ignore once every three times, set the hurdles low at first, such as once every five times or once every eight times, and gradually raise the hurdles when you get used to it.
If you do that, you won't notice that your brain is gradually changing, and eventually your brain will get used to ignoring it once every three times, and you will be able to do it without feeling uncomfortable at all.
The brain has a mysterious power, and if you suddenly change your previous habits, you will resist.
That's why I have the power to return to my original self and my original familiar habits.
So, by changing it little by little, we set it up so that the brain doesn't find out about the change.
That's why various habits are the same, but when you change it, I recommend that you change it little by little instead of changing it suddenly.
Personally, I think it's better to keep it to the extent that you can ignore it about once every three times, if you think about the future.
Because in today's world, there are many people who bring themselves to the first priority, so there are really few people who think of others as superior.
Therefore, if you use it in reverse and become a person who can give priority to others, that is, a person who can give priority to others, and a person who can be considerate to others, there is no doubt that it will be advantageous in the future.
Of course, it's not painful, it's not hard.
As I said earlier, the brain has the property of being good at returning to its original state, so please be careful not to be hacked by your brain.
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