I'm listening to you behind your back, what should I do?
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My answer is very simple.
That means, "Let's do something that you can't hear."
If you are worried about listening behind your back, this is the fastest and easiest way to choose.
It seems difficult, but I've said it many times.
If you're worried about hearing behind your back, just think about it and don't listen to it.
"I can't do that!" There are people who say that, but I'll explain it roughly, but you're just deciding that you can't do it yourself.
Because people who are talking behind their backs don't always talk behind their backs, do they?
There will be a time when it will stop someday, right?
So, until then, at least until the back talk is over, I will try to make sure that the back talk is not heard.
When you think like this, can't you think of various ideas?
It's only when you start talking behind your back.
For example, it's classic, but you can wear earplugs or play music with wireless earphones.
In addition, it's okay to leave the place once or for any reason to leave, right?
There are many things, such as "I'm going to the bathroom", "I'm going to go for lunch", and leaving the place pretending to answer the phone, right?
Unexpectedly, no one cares about other people that much, so I'm sure no one will even investigate whether they are really leaving for the reason.
If there is, that person is a pretty dangerous person, so in terms of personality.
So if you were such a person, let's cut off the relationship with that person quickly.
There is nothing good to connect.
Well, let's get back to the story.
I think there are other ways that you can do it yourself if you think about changing the topic.
Ultimately, quit your job or make a request for a transfer.
I'm sure it won't work if you tell your boss or the ethics committee, so I don't really recommend it.
It's a waste of time just going.
Therefore, first of all, you should think of an effective method immediately, so I think it is best to think of a way that you can do yourself and deal with it yourself.
That's the answer to my consultation.
Well, from now on, even if you say just a little, the other party has a situation, there is a reason to talk behind your back, and only those who want to know what the background is behind your back.
I'm the same, but when I find out what kind of feelings and hearts there is in that person's background, and what kind of heart they have, and there are people who suddenly feel like, "Ah, that's why it's so, then it can't be helped."
"I understand what you're saying behind your back."
At that moment, you can accept that person at once.
I can say that I can forgive almost everything so far, or I feel a little sympathetic.
However, the other party doesn't want it, but I can forgive the other person on my own.
So, I think there are people who have the same nature as me, so I will talk to such people from here.
Well, then, I'm going to deepen the psychology of people who talk behind their backs.
The first thing I can think of is that there are many people who say bad things about people who don't like themselves very much.
For some reason, if you like yourself, you don't care about others.
Almost.
It doesn't mean that everyone is everyone.
For example, no matter what you do, you put yourself first.
What you think about is also your own first.
Prioritize your own errands over other people's errands.
That's why I don't have time to think about others.
Whether it's good or bad in itself is different.
In other words, having time to think about others means that you don't like yourself very much.
Moreover, the more people who feel their own shortcomings and complexes, the more they notice the similar points of others.
For example, let's say you have a complex about being fat.
Then, I get the illusion that everyone who is fat in the world feels complex about being fat just like me.
So, "He's fat, is he okay? You can't manage yourself, can you? I'll say that.
"No, no, no, that's the same for you, isn't it?" That's what I'm talking about.
"Maybe someone thinks of me the same way?" That's what I'm talking about.
In other words, what I want to say is that you are recognizing your shortcomings through others.
"I'm a bad guy."
Not consciously, but unconsciously.
It is imprinted in the subconscious.
Like that.
That's a story that you'll become a bad person without knowing it.
It's a story that I'm the kind of person who talks behind other people's backs.
Well, the story seems to be getting more and more deviated, so I'll summarize it here.
A person who is talking behind other people's back is a poor person who can't admit his own faults.
That's why you blame others instead and take the harmony of your own heart.
He is a poor person who can only heal his own heart by saying bad things about others.
If it's true, it's a higher level as a person if you can admit your own shortcomings.
If you can accept your own shortcomings and complexes, you can grow up as a person, or rather, you can gently answer the same concerns of others.
Simply put, wouldn't it be better to know your own shortcomings?
If you look unhealthy because you are fat, you can lose weight by trying to behave healthily or actually living a healthy life, right?
In fact, there are many aspects that work positively for my life, such as using it as a story that makes you laugh by eating less.
However, when you can't take advantage of the advantages, you're a little low-level as a person, right?
Even if you say too bad, it will be too much, so I'll keep it in moderation, but the level is low, and it means that you are a person who is not worth comparing with yourself.
Well, in other words, it's like a socially vulnerable person.
It is a Japanese custom that the weak must be rescued, so if you see someone who says that, you actually have to save them.
Otherwise, you will be at the same level as that person.
But well, when I ask this, wouldn't a person with a lot of affection sympathize with me?
When you sympathize, don't you feel like you can forgive the other person?
Somehow, don't you want to protect you, don't you want to rehabitate you somehow?
If you have a affectionate personality, I think you can understand more deeply because there are such circumstances about people who talk behind your back from now on.
In that case, isn't the sense of weakness also blown away?
That's the full picture of my answer today.
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