I'm worried that my way of communicating is misunderstood, what should I do?
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Well, today's consultant said, "I wonder if my way of communicating is misunderstood?" It means that you are worried.
So, if you're worried about it, why don't you think about it simply and ask the other person?
"Didn't you receive it in a strange way?" And so on.
That's my answer.
This is actually a surprisingly simple problem, but there are many people who think hard and can't put it into action.
This is a common problem for people with relatively delicate personalities and people with low self-affirmation, for example, "Can I ask myself a question?" Or, "If you're with me like this, won't people around you look at me strangely?" Or, "I wonder if you'll get angry if I hear something like this?" And in most cases, you're doing too many things by yourself.
But in most cases, this is also just my own assumption.
Well, there are some people who are really twisted in personality.
But there are only a few such people.
If you hit such a person, you can't help it.
I have no choice but to give up, but most people are people who answer casually.
Even if you have had the same experience in the past and are a little hesitant, please have a little courage and ask the other person.
Then, about 80% of people will answer normally.
I can promise this.
But as for the remaining 20% of the people, as I said earlier, this is quite dangerous.
He is quite a crooked person, and some people say terrible things back.
In fact, have you ever experienced something like this?
Shut up! Shut up" or "Think about that yourself!" Or, at worst, "Think for yourself, Barka" or something like that.
Well, for example, if you have had such an experience in the past, it is natural to feel resistance when asking others questions.
I'm sure that the experience of that time is still stuck in the depths of my head, and the memory of that time is recalled, and I think there is a phenomenon that I can't ask even if I want to ask.
My hands are shaking, I can't say a word, or I can't speak.
This means that if you don't fundamentally remake that mindset, you will live with that mindset for the rest of your life.
So the best thing to do is to rewrite the memory of the past.
It boils down to this, but it's hard to rewrite this bad event that happened in the past alone.
So I think it would be better to ask a psychological expert like a psychological counselor to rewrite that mindset together.
However, "I don't like that", "I don't want to receive counseling!" If you are told that, please try the next way to talk.
That is, if you are worried about whether your way of answering is misunderstood, to get rid of that anxiety, you can answer in detail and specifically so that your way of answering is not misunderstood.
However, this will take a little time.
Take 3 minutes to answer in detail what is conveyed in 1 minute.
That's the image.
For example, "Did you get tomorrow's materials?" Let's say you were asked by a colleague or boss.
Then, ordinary people only give simple answers such as "I did it" or "It's perfect".
But that's it, take a little time and tell the other person in detail.
This is also an analogy, but "Yes, I did it. 3 pages on A4 paper, the font is Gothic, and the points are 12 points, making it easier for the business partner 〇〇 to see. The number of copies is 5 copies. I'm going to take it to tomorrow's business meeting."
If you explain so far, you know a lot, don't you?
Well, first of all, I don't think there is a misunderstanding.
Moreover, if you want to explain this in more detail, you can explain as much as you want, right?
In this way, if you spend as much time as possible in detail, there will be fewer misunderstandings, and then you will ask questions in various places.
"Is this okay?" Or, "Do you understand?" Or something like, "Please let me know if something is wrong."
That's how I make a point to confirm whether you understand in between.
If you try to explain in detail, it will take time, so if you keep explaining from beginning to end, you won't be able to understand the other person well, and it's quite troublesome to listen to people all the time.
Therefore, by daring to ask questions and confirm, the other party will also participate in the explanation.
I don't let you have free time, I talk to the other person in between so that I don't get distracted.
Even so, suddenly, if you can do this skill well, it's difficult to do it suddenly even though you haven't been able to do it before, so first of all, do it little by little, and get used to it little by little.
I recommend that you slowly get used to your brain in that way.
Don't give up just because you failed once or twice, but do it little by little, and start with a little thing so that you don't suffer great damage to your heart even if you fail.
If it's a little failure, you probably won't be so depressed, and you don't have to worry about it.
So at first, little by little, it expands the range of things you can do, and after 3 months and 6 months, you can do it normally, and you can do it as if you were breathing.
Therefore, I recommend that you take a small first step and start right now, as you say, "The road of a thousand miles starts from one step".
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