If you don't follow the rules you changed yourself, you'll lose a lot later.

Hello, everyone.

Sai&Co.Sai&Co. of WAKU Chare Labo It is.

Well, today I will talk about "The rules I changed myself, if you don't follow them properly, you will lose a lot later" while brushing up my past blog.

Today's story, if "It was good!" If there is someone like that, please share it 😁

Then it's the main topic.

Is there anyone who changes the first rule without permission and does it without the other party's consent?

There are people around me, but to be honest, I'm ignoring them.

I've been contacted unilaterally many times, but I'm thinking of letting it go as long as it doesn't interfere with my work.

(It's been about a year and a half since I wrote this blog.

Unexpectedly, there are people who make this rule without permission.

But in the end, there are many things that I don't remember even the person who made it, and only when I'm in trouble, I say, "I told you before" or "I'm in trouble if I don't do 〇〇" and try to take responsibility for it.

However, when you can afford it, even if you don't follow that rule, you won't say anything, but you can't afford it, and it's too unreasonable to apply that rule only when you're in trouble, isn't it? That is.

If you say, "It's a flexible response," that's right, but if you need to respond flexibly, I think you have to establish that rule from the beginning.

If you don't set rules from the beginning, you will be able to respond flexibly under various circumstances, and you will not follow the rules, so the stocks of the people who made the rules will not go down.

But many people think about making it easier by making certain rules.

In other words, it's troublesome for me to think about it and deal with it every time, so I force it into a rule.

But in the end, it's a rule that I forced myself to make, so it's a composition that the distortion becomes a treason and comes back to me.)

However, I'm not angry, but if you want to change the rules, you just need to say a word by changing it, and just because you changed the rules doesn't mean that you need a major review.

That's why we don't have any problems at all...

However, how about changing the rules to the trading partner without permission and unilaterally demanding it and making it look like it's our fault that we can't protect it? I think so.

(It may still be allowed to change the rules without permission to your relatives, but for those who are related to externally, you should never do this.

In Japan, there has been a culture called "Omonpakal" since ancient times.

However, if you ask the other party for this, it will cause you to fail.

For example, ask a cooperating company for a certain job.

The company that made the request makes an appointment with the client for the adjustment.

From there, the hearing usually starts, and I think it will be a flow of moving to the actual service provision, but at the first stage, if it is, it is common sense to make an appointment for adjustment from the partner company, but from the busyness I forget to take the point, or I think without permission, "I wonder if I'll do it from the other party if necessary."

What will happen then?

If you are a very patient client, you may contact me again, but probably, most clients will not have that story at that point.

Maybe the person in charge who received the request thought, "I want you to take a job at home, so even if you don't make an appointment, the other party will do it, you will know that I'm busy."

But this feeling leads to failure.

I don't say it, but I force them to care about the other person's feelings.

This is the so-called coercion of Omon Pakaru.

Well, how did you all feel about this example? Probably, I think many people felt, "I have to make an appointment from the person who received the request properly," "I don't know if I don't tell you properly," or "Why do I have to tell the client?"

Is that so.

Some people say, "I see, it's worse not to notice it," and some people think they think it's bad, while others say, "Hmm, that's right," and only accept the facts, but most people blame the person who requested it. It's easy to blame the person who was asked.

In other words, you tend to think that the other party is worse than you, so "Omonpakal's coercion" where this law works has such a powerful power that if you do it to the outside world, it will destroy the relationship.

In human relationships and business, if the relationship breaks down, it's over, isn't it?)

Maybe the person in question is not conscious of it, but for me, it seems that he is making a fait accompli and changing the rules to his own good.

I'm not following the rules that I'm trying to change unilaterally, but I'm treated like a bad guy.

If it's too bad, I think I have to say it once, but as I said at the beginning, there is no hindrance, so I'm watching silently now.

(In the end, I've been watching it for a year and a half, but so far, there is no particular hindrance to my work, so I haven't done anything in particular.

I mean, even if there is a hindrance, I know how to avoid the hindrance, so it's not a big problem from the beginning.

However, the people around me are directly facing the hindrance, so "Isn't it a lot of stress?" I'm also a little worried.

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So, aren't you trying to change the rules without knowing it?

If you were trying to change it on your own, it was a story that it was a bad impression on the other party😁

See you later✌️

(So how was this story today?

Each person has a different personality and way of thinking, so until now we have created a "rule" and controlled it, but in this day and age, it has become difficult to control, isn't it?

Trying to eliminate those who can't obey, trying to force them to obey, and what's worse is that they twist the rules themselves and make strange rules.

But in the rule itself, everyone says, "Huh? I'm aware that it's strange," but it's a world where there are a lot of such people who have accepted it because it's troublesome to even point it out.

It's a little off topic, but however, those who make rules without permission, and if you have an idea, "Why don't people around you understand what you're doing?" If you are worried about that, why don't you review your thoughts once?

So today's story, "It was good!" If you say so, please share it with your friends.

See you later ✌️)