Kuromoji-ya Cafe ③

Mrs. Halmeku.
"---. If they casually talk to me, I'll listen, and if they ask, I'll start to give advise or share my experience with them. But we won't start talking to them about marriage, their children and caregiving to us. I think they should do what they want, what they think. The children will be brought up according to their own ideas. We have already told them. They don't have to worry about caring us. We're living well prepared, and we've already talked about the inheritance and everything, and they're all happy with that."

Oh, the topic has changed while I got my attention from parfait! The talk about family is very common topic that people are curious, but Mrs. Halmeku seems to have a very current point of view. She's also talking about inheritance, which is great.

Mrs. Adidas.
"Oh, my God, already? Yes, I have. I have one who hasn't married yet. I just hope he does it soon."

There it is! It is the talk about unmarried children!

Mrs. Halmeku.
"Oh well, getting married is one of the life choices now, isn't it? That's fine, it doesn't matter. I heard that 40% of people don't get married. There's nothing wrong with that. Each person has their own happiness."

Mrs. Adidas.
"Yes, I understand that. But it is my eldest son. He doesn't talk much, like my husband, and he doesn't frequently change a woman one after another, he is a man, trating one person, you know. Yes, he's a good boy. I'm sure there's someone out there for him, but it's not something like we parents can push him to do."

Mrs. Halmeku is quick to respond.
"I won't say that. It's their own thing. If they ask or tell me, I'll listen to them, but I won't tell them what to do. The same goes for married children."

Mrs. Halmeku, as expected, never loses her attitude of "Happiness is individual". She is aware of this on a daily basis, I imagine.

Mrs. Adidas.
"I know, it's better not to say it. I know that. But as a mother, you have it, don't you? You would expect about the happiness of holding your child with your arms and what kind of father he's going to be.'

Oh, I see. So you are worried about your son's marriage. But why do you want to know those things...?

Mrs. Halmeku.
"Oh, I thought so too, before. It's true that you have that kind of thing. Yes."

Oh, really? Is that a thing!?

Mrs. Adidas.
"I know you do. That's why I wish he'd get married sooner. I still wish he'd do it soon."

Mrs. Halmeku.
"Well, 40% of people don't get married, right? That's the way things are now, and if they are happy, that's all that matters. It doesn't matter how people look at them or what they have to do. If they are happy, that's all that matters. Just because the good things to us might not good for the other people to do."

Mrs. Halmeku repeated the line twice. It sounds definitely important thought for her. As always, she maintains her stance. Recently TV and media say SDGs and diversity a lot, that make sense. The two madams peaceful conversation in the coffee shop flows in the afternoon of the hectic and uncertain times.