The Trouble with "Right or Wrong?"

I stay quiet when people talk about others in a nasty way.

I don't respond.

In my head, I think to myself,
"I know they talk to others that way too."

I also dislike people who say things I disagree with and then end with "right or wrong?"

I can't help but think this person is closed-minded .

However, I just say "I hear you" to avoid a fight or losing them as a friend or family member.

Why ask me if all your life actions are right or wrong?

It feels like you're trying to get me to agree with you and validate things I wouldn't do or handle completely differently.