02_She gives people a Silent pressure

This is my first role of management.
My boss was very beautiful and older than me about 12 years old.

She always take care for her health and beautiful very strict. Furthermore she was perfect woman on duty.

This is because she makes us scary and miserable. We always feel pressure from her.

Her habit is to say, "It was written in ____, wasn't it?"The tone is calm, but you can hear the voice of her mind saying, "It is natural to remember every detail of the e-mail that was in the Cc...".

When I first arrived at the position, I had to learn people's names and the amount of INPUT of how to do the daily work, so I didn't have any emails in my Cc...!

Maybe he is the type of person who is good at making people feel inferior...

[Countermeasure] (Since it is scary to face them head-on)
☞ Communicate your opinions by e-mail or notepad
☞ You can quasi-data necessary in advance and avoid being packed (pressured) in person.]

I do not ask questions or requests each time, but rather I summarize her in advance and then say, "I have a question I would like to discuss with you at ○:________. How is your schedule?If you are the perfect type, you should ask "Is this a good time to talk to you?If you ask the perfect type to answer "I'm busy right now, so I can't talk to you", you may hurt their pride.

The perfect type does not expect to be praised ☞ The perfect type always has a mission that they set for themselves, so they have high expectations for others as well. Even if you think "I did a relatively good job," the other person may take "that much for granted" for granted. If I try too hard to live up to their expectations, I end up crushing myself, so I want to be able to say, "I did my best!I want to be in a state where I can say, "I've done it!

【Summary】As we worked together, I realized that the "quiet pressure" that Beauty Bosses exert on us is unacknowledged pressure because they are putting in a considerable amount of effort themselves. I realized that I should not blame them for their pressure, but rather acknowledge that my own skills and thinking had not caught up with theirs. However, when I become a better person, I would like to give myself some leeway and develop my skills so that I can support others by understanding their weaknesses and strengths, rather than demanding that they have the same thinking and skills as me.

#a silent pressure 
#how to protect my mind
#someone teach me