Power to Make a Turning Point (7) Personal Edition - Exploring Values

 I will explain the specific steps to make a turning point. In the last chapter, I described the turning point process as follows.

(Turning point process)
Explore the deepest values
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To be motivated to stir one's own emotions
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Emotions in conjunction with motives constrain behavior,
to effect a change in behavior
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Changes in behavior change sense of values
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Change in personality and acquire new goals and missions
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A new vision of life opens up and a turning point comes

So, let's embark on the first process, a journey that explores your own deepest values.

 To explore our deepest values, you need to trace yourself from your thought circuits.

 Your trigger actions with physiological and physical responses, starting with your deepest values. The results of your actions are stimulated in a variety of ways, depending on your surroundings and other factors, and affect your subsequent actions and expressions. Your thought processes are constantly influenced by the environment that surrounds you and will continue to change your behavior. But on the other hand, the deepest values at the starting point never change.

 Let's take appetite as a simple example to illustrate the thought process.
You as a child were hungry and ate bread. Your mother watching closely, delighted to see you ate. You developed a feeling that you were happy to be praised. And you had been keep smiling and eating bread.

 As in adolescence, suppose you were hungry and ate bread. But it was a classroom, so the teacher got mad at you. You felt depressed and nervous when your teacher got angry at you. Then you looked down and apologized to the teacher.

 Thus, in the subconscious thought process, you were the same until you get hungry and eat bread, but the stimulus and cognition you got depend on the environment you were in. This is the explicit thought process. The important point is that the latent thought circuit is always constant, independent of environment and age, and the deepest values from which it originates are invariant.
 The deepest value in this case may be the inability to control desire, or the possessive desire to monopolize things.

 The thought process is summarized in a flow diagram as shown below.

 Now that you have a better understanding of the thought process, you will explore the deepest values. This starts with listing the things that trigger your feelings, or the feelings yourself, in the following table about innate or acquired things.
 Emotions are perceived differently by different people. Some people see being tall as a positive and others as a negative. Write based on your feelings, not others' evaluations.
 Most importantly, I want you to fill in the acquired feelings column with things you can't possibly forget or don't want to remember in your life. This emotion is not a normal emotion, but a level of what might be called passion, and the stronger the emotion, the more motivated it will last for a long time.

 Then, on this chart, write your feelings using the examples below as a guide.

Example: innate
(body, health)
tonic, weak motor, nervous physique, physical appearance
(brain, instinct)
memory, thought, imagination, pleasure, willful
obsession, appetite, lust
(temperament)
mild aggressive mood changeable
justice, camaraderie, disgust, fear, reason.

Example Acquired
(Positive, positive emotions)
I cheered with excitement.
I jumped up and gutted.
I yelled, I was happy, I was satisfied.
(negative, negative emotions)
Shamed legs trembled
I couldn't stop crying.
The blushing goosebumps gave me only despair.
It was frustrating. I couldn't believe it.

If you create a table for an athlete,

 Please complete your chart like this.

 Then we move to the stage of discovering values, which is the goal of this chapter.

 The innate is influenced by the environment, causing the acquired and producing unforgettable emotions. When a positive innate triggers a negative emotion, it shocks the body and mind, making it an unforgettable event. This is true even when negative innate things trigger positive emotions.

 Consider the case of the above athlete.

 The starting point of this shocking stimulus is this athlete's deepest values.
A player who is athletic and always aggressive has been reprimanded and has developed strong negative feelings about not improving. It was unforgivable for him to be reprimanded for a sport he was supposed to be good at and not improve his skills. It was a moment when his confidence was broken. It was a real shock to him. And it turns out that the root of this stimulus comes from this player's "hating to lose." That's right, the deepest value of this player is to be competitive.
 If he recognizes this value, even if he doesn't improve after being reprimanded, he will use his "competitive spirit" as a driving force to gain high athletic ability with tough mental strength. Instead of growing up with setbacks, his life will be paved by recognizing his deepest values.

 On the other hand, a player with a selfish and obsessive side was praised by his peers for winning the game. This created a strong positive feeling in this player. The moment a selfish, obsessive and difficult player to make friends achieved a result, the moment his teammates gathered to praise him, this player received a shocking stimulus.
 People recognize when this player gets results. If he thought that results were everything to get him to acknowledge himself, you'd know that this player's deepest value is his desire to achieve. Driven by a "desire to achieve," this player will lead the team as captain and experience further heights of life.

 Here's a word of caution: I want each of you to see the deepest values as real, and I want you to express the results in terms you feel most comfortable with. It doesn't have to be an idiom, and it might be better expressed in plain language. In the case of the above athletes, I think it is also good to express values from "I hate to lose" to "I will continue until I win."

 Again, values based on acquired emotions generated by explicit thought processes are not linked to lasting motives or turning points. If you volunteer for a job and consider your values to be "service to the world" but not your deepest values, you will not be connected to the motivations that influence your life.

 Having gone through the above process to sort out your implicit and explicit thought circuits and ruminated on their feelings, have you arrived at the deepest values from which your thought circuits originate?

(Supplementary Thinking Circuits and Mental Health)
 More people are suffering from mental health these days. Once you have the deepest values, you may be less likely to suffer from mental health.
That's because the mentally damaging triggers come from secondary thought processes. Let's say you act with the values you hold and the results are unfavorable and unpopular. Then they respond by changing their behavior and expression to correct it. But even that doesn't produce the desired results. As you repeat it, you lose yourself and your confidence.

 The environment that surrounds you is constantly changing, and in some cases can produce the opposite result. There are many ways to trigger mental problems, such as being told that something you thought was good was wrong this time, or being reprimanded again for trying to fix it. In addition, there are now more cases of people being vilified on SNS and other online media.

 Those who understand the deepest values this time should always act from those values. There will be all sorts of people around you who disagree with you, or who won't be convinced by reason. Having a clear sense of your own values can help you escape the spell by remembering your starting point in the face of self-doubt.

 And you don't take mental challenges seriously. You may have friends who become distant as a result, bosses who don't fit, but you don't bend your values. The deepest value itself is the starting point from which you can express your opinion openly and assert your own ideas.
Woo.

 You've got a big weapon in this chapter. In the next chapter, when the turning point comes and you have a compass, put on the big weapon of values and set sail.