Embracing a Simple and Abundant Lifestyle from Your 40s by Lessons from "Iki"

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The concept of "Iki" as a way of life from Japan’s Edo period may be somewhat familiar to you, but what specific actions embody this ethos?
This is a question I've been asked by friends around me.

So today, I would like to present 10 simple and practical "Iki" actions that you can easily incorporate into your life.

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Embracing a Simple and Abundant Lifestyle from Your 40s by lessons from “Iki”

1. Emphasize simplicity

Deep dive: Simplicity means eliminating unnecessary elements and focusing on the essence. When making decisions in daily life or work, consider what is most important and reduce unnecessary factors.

Example: For example, keep your room’s decor minimal with only essential furniture, and choose calming colors. When speaking, be concise and communicate your main points directly.

2. Be natural

Deep dive: Being natural means being true to yourself. It’s important to be yourself without pretending and to interact with others without forcing anything. This allows both parties to build a relaxed relationship.

Example: If you have plans with friends, wear what makes you feel most comfortable instead of dressing up unnecessarily. Also, be honest in conversations, but respect the other person’s opinion without negating it.

3. Be considerate of others

Deep dive: Consideration means thinking from the other person’s perspective and acting accordingly. It’s important to sense what the other person wants and respond appropriately.

Example: When an elderly person boards the train, immediately offer them your seat. If you sense someone is in trouble, offer to help without hesitation.

4. Pay attention to your appearance

Deep dive: Appearance greatly influences the first impression you give. By choosing clean, well-fitting clothes, you can bring out your natural charm. It's also important to dress appropriately for the occasion.

Example: For a business meeting, choose a simple, clean suit and make sure your shoes are polished. In your private life, choose relaxed clothing that suits your style, but make sure it’s in good condition, not worn out.

5. Use polite language

Deep dive: Polite language shows respect for others and is fundamental to maintaining good relationships. Choosing appropriate words and conveying gratitude or apologies sincerely is essential.

Example: Regularly use words like “thank you,” “sorry,” and “good job” to show your appreciation and consideration. When stating an opinion, use cushioning phrases like “in my personal opinion” to soften the delivery.

6. Appreciate the small things

Deep dive: Gratitude for small things increases happiness in daily life. No matter how small, don’t forget to appreciate others and your surroundings, and express it verbally.

Example: Every morning, when you wake up, say to yourself, “I’m grateful for another day.” Also, express gratitude to family or colleagues for even the smallest gestures.

7. Take a step back

Deep dive: “Iki” is often expressed by refraining from asserting oneself too much and giving way to others. By taking a step back, relationships with others become smoother, and you gain more personal space.

Example: When someone else is speaking in a conversation, listen without interrupting until they finish. During group meals, let others serve themselves first instead of taking the first portion.

8. Keep learning

Deep dive: Continuously learning helps you grow as a person. However, it’s important to apply the knowledge naturally in your life without showing off.

Example: Regularly read books on subjects that interest you. Take courses or workshops on weekends to acquire new skills. Sharing what you’ve learned with others helps deepen your understanding.

9. Don’t forget humor

Deep dive: Humor is an element that helps ease tension in daily life. Incorporating light-hearted jokes and smiles into conversations can improve the atmosphere and relationships with those around you.

Example: In conversations with friends or colleagues, add light jokes to bring out smiles. Even in difficult situations, make positive comments to lighten everyone’s mood.

10. Maintain moderation

Deep dive: Moderation is about balancing your actions and words. Avoid excess in anything and enjoy activities within appropriate limits.

Example: For instance, know your limits when drinking alcohol and avoid overindulging. In hobbies or leisure, balance them with work or family time and enjoy them within appropriate limits.

Thank you for reading until the end.

Well then, till next time.
Let there be prosperity.

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